Tied to the bed spread eagle and blindfolded, Megan was brought to the point of ecstasy by a spiked roller.
The first time Megan played with Louann Chin, a transgender dominatrix, she could not even remember how many orgasms she had.
“She liked her breasts being spanked and then she wanted to be ass spanked. I flipped her over, played with her breasts and then I made her orgasm to the point that she doesn’t even remember how many orgasms she had. I think at one point she couldn’t stand up when she tried to stand up she had to sit back down for a minute,” Chin said.
Nov. 2015 is when Chin transitioned fully into a woman, but from the beginning of her life, Chin knew she was different, “I knew I was different but didn’t know why I was different. There were very small clues as time progressed wondering why I felt a little bit more comfortable in like women’s department stores rather than the male,” Chin said.
Transitioning into a woman was mentally enlightening, refreshing, and was something she was searching for throughout her early life.
Being in the BDSM community is something that makes her more than a transgender woman.
BDSM entails kinks, fetish, role-playing, medical play, pony/puppy play, shoe worship, etc. it is everything that is not considered to be ‘normal’ play in the bedroom but in the world of BDSM they display pleasure received through pain.
A common misconception about BDSM is that it just focuses on pain and not pleasure, but according to Chin, that is not the case at all.
Safe, sane, and consensual are the rules that are lived by when playing in the BDSM community but it is different for all who play.
Going into unfamiliar territory can be intimidating for someone and Chin had a no different experience, “I was little, not naive but you know a little nervous, a little frightened because going into that kind of scenario, what you see on the internet or on TV and then to see it in person was like oh my god, it’s intimidating,” Chin said.
Chin attends play parties and conventions like DomCon and uses social media to connect with others to show how people can freely express their fetishes without judgement or shame.
Megan and Ginger are just a couple of friends that Chin has played with but have separate relationships with her.
Chin and Megan have only played with each other once but it was memorable for both.
“She enjoys spanking me with her hand whenever we go out to the parties and events in L.A. but we do not have an official Dom/Sub relationship,” Megan said.
A Dom/Sub relationship is when the Dominant has all power and control over the Submissive, otherwise it is just for personal pleasure and fun time.
Chin believes that spanking someone should go gentle first and then harder, but some people they may like going hard from the beginning, it depends on how they want to be spanked.
“You have to warm up a person. Specifically, let’s say just spanking on the butt you know you have to bring blood to the top and warm it up to get that blood flowing cause if you start out cold it’s going to hurt and you know some people like that. I like to start out with the warm-up because you’re getting in tune with the person you are playing with, you’re getting them familiar with your hand and who you are,” Chin explained.
Aftercare in the BDSM community is affectionate care and attention to that person after play, “You know the hug, the feeling them, and making sure that they’re okay,” Chin said.
Going into the Dominatrix mindset Chin has to think toward that mentality of her role as Empress Louann, “At first I will ask them my name I will ask, ‘So, what’s my name?’ and they will say, ‘Mistress’ I go, ‘No, not Mistress, Empress. I am Empress Louann’ and I’ll ask them again, ‘What’s my name?’, ‘Your, Empress’ and I’ll go ‘Thank you’,” said Chin as she explained her process of getting into her role which ends when they mutually agree that they are done.
Domination is not prostitution, it is professional and there are no penetration or sex acts involved.
“People perceive BDSM has to be sexual, they assume oh you’re into BDSM. Oh there’s going to be intercourse, someone’s dick is going to go into someone’s vagina or someone’s asshole or someone’s going to get a blowjob, but here’s the thing BDSM is not about that; sex is not the same as BDSM, where there is BDSM does not need to be sex,” said Chin.
Chin does not get paid for what she does as a Dominatrix because she does it for fun.
“I would say at the end of it all I am a professional dominatrix in the way that I have the ability to Dom but I do it as a lifestyle because I like to do it for fun, but I don’t think it’s going to take over my life for a profession I just don’t, I don’t see myself doing that as a profession,” said Chin.
In the Los Angeles area, there is a sex dungeon called OC Complex that Chin has gone to a total of three times and is friends with the owner Irene Dom Boss and her husband.
She first met Boss in 2005 at DomCon LA where she was incredibly intimidated, “She intimidated me just the way she presented herself scared me and I guess that’s cool because that’s the way Doms are supposed to, but yeah she scared me, too afraid to ask for a photo with her,” Chin said while laughing.
The OC Complex can be used for BDSM ceremonies, kinky couples, small groups, fetish media producers and photographers, as well as self vetted lifestyles and select professional Dominas.
“I’ve been interested in corporal punishment, I’m interested in paddles, floggers, whips, and canes. I like it done to me as well as I like to do it to others, I’m interested in like boss/secretary, mistress/slave,” Chin shared. “I like to play with people’s bodies and get them excited about being touched.”
There are certain limitations she won’t do, “Top three are needles, blood, and scat (feces/poop). There is a lot of other stuff along with that I’m not licking someone’s ass, I know my limitations, I’m not a painslut I can take my share of pain but by no means am I an actual painslut,” said Chin.
It has to be negotiated between the Dominatrix and Submissive about what weapons/tools are used and what activities are agreed upon to play.
Ginger, another friend that Chin has played with had their first experience together at a club, a BDSM studio for the first time a few weeks ago.
Ginger gives some advice to people who are curious but are hesitant to get involved.
“Well, don’t take it too seriously just know that we were just here to have fun. I think as we get older we realize that nothing about life is actually very serious, except you know when you have to die, that’s serious. But the rest of it is really here for our enjoyment and just coming from an understanding to be light-hearted, open minded, and to not take ourselves and other people too seriously and realize that we are doing these things because we’re interested in having fun and this is one way of play,” Ginger said.
Although being a dominatrix is not her full time profession, Chin wishes the people around her always remain respectful of interest in BDSM as a transgender woman.
“I don’t ask people to sympathize with me or empathize with me I’m just asking them to respect me that’s all and if they get it great, if not you know maybe someday and I didn’t figure out who I was till years later, Chin said.”
Chin believes that the BDSM community allows people to embrace their fetishes, but it also brings together an actual family that loves, respects, and cherishes one another with the enjoyment of spanking some butts.
